Are You Profoundly Influential?

In a recent Forbes magazine article by Travis Bradberry, co-author of the bestselling Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and cofounder of TalentSmart, he defines influential people as “those who have a profound impact on everyone they encounter.

“They achieve this only because they exert so much influence inside, on themselves. We see them innovate, speak their mind, and propel themselves forward toward bigger and better things. And, yet, we’re missing the best part. The confidence and wherewithal that make their influence possible are earned. It’s a labor of love that influential people pursue behind the scenes, every single day," he continues.

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Bradberry shares nine habits to build your influence.

Think for yourself

 "Influential people aren’t buffeted by the latest trend or by public opinion. They form their opinions carefully, based on the facts. They’re more than willing to change their mind when the facts support it, but they aren’t influenced by what other people think, only by what they know.“

Be graciously disruptive

“Influential people are never satisfied with the status quo. They’re the ones who constantly ask ‘What if?’ and ‘Why not?’ They’re not afraid to challenge conventional wisdom, and they don’t disrupt things for the sake of being disruptive; they do it to make things better.”

Inspire conversation

“When influential people speak, conversations spread like ripples in a pond. And those ripples are multidirectional; influencers inspire everyone around them to explore new ideas and think differently about their work.”

Leverage your networks

“Influential people know how to make lasting connections. More importantly, they add value to everyone in their network. They share advice and know-how, and they make connections between people who should get to know each other.”

Focus only on what really matters

“Influential people aren’t distracted by trivialities. They’re able to cut through the static and clutter, focus on what matters, and point it out to everyone else. They speak only when they have something important to say, and they never bore people with idle banter.”

Welcome disagreement

“Influential people do not react emotionally and defensively to dissenting opinions— they welcome them. They’re humble enough to know that they don’t know everything and that someone else might see something they missed. And if that person is right, they embrace the idea wholeheartedly because they care more about the end result than being right.”

Be proactive

“Influential people don’t wait for things like new ideas and new technologies to find them, they seek those things out. These early adopters always want to anticipate what’s next. They’re influential because they seek what’s coming, and they see what’s coming because they intentionally look for it. Then they spread the word.”

Respond rather than react

"If someone criticizes an influential person for making a mistake, or if someone else makes a critical mistake, influential people don’t react immediately and emotionally. They wait. They think. And then they deliver an appropriate response. Influential people know how important relationships are, and they won’t let an emotional overreaction harm theirs. They also know that emotions are contagious, and overreacting has a negative influence on everyone around them.”

Believe

“Influential people always expect the best. They believe in their own power to achieve their dreams, and they believe others share that same power. They believe that nothing is out of reach, and that belief inspires those around them to stretch for their own goals. They firmly believe that one person can change the world.”

Each day, we encounter a vast array of people—some are fellow workers, others are friends, many are family members. How we choose to interact and relate to those people determines if we are incidental or influential. We owe it to the people we meet to be more than just passing encounters—how we respond and relate changes their lives as well as our own.